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The Power of Letting Go

Letting Go… When my Mom passed just over a year ago I threw myself into settling her estate, looking after her Mom, looking after my brother, and working too many hours.  I didn’t want to feel the hurt of loosing her and I was so afraid that if I “let go” I would forget the beautiful woman that loved and believed in me so much.

I remember a chilly day that we sat out on the deck talking and she made me promise that I would go back to Costa Rica for a vacation.  She knew I had fallen in love with this place and wanted to make sure I went back.  Then she said something that I will never forget and made my heart hurt, she said “When you go back to Costa Rica I will send all the beautiful butterflies to see you and you will know that I am there with you.  Now promise me you will go back.”  I reluctantly promised.  She passed in April that year and in January of the following year I kept my promise and went back.  I spent ten days by myself in the most beautiful place on earth.  On the next to last day I finally found the courage to feel everything I had worked so hard to stuff.  Sitting quietly looking out at the jungle and the ocean in the distance the first butterfly appeared.  This butterfly was  a brilliant yellow and it fluttered right up to me – my Mom had a car this color and we all made fun of her because it was so bright, but she loved this car and put up with our making fun.  Within minutes there were at least 20 butterflies of all size and color fluttering around and that’s when it all poured out.  I knew she had kept her promise too and I also realized that letting go didn’t mean forgetting it meant understanding and would bring peace to both of us.  Never have I felt so empowered and light.  Now when I think of that chilly day and our conversation, it warms my heart and makes me smile.

I realized that day that my Mom had been a huge inspiration in my life.  She had always been one to encourage me to follow my dreams…and some of my dreams were HUGE.

I learned from this experience that letting go is a positive.  It allows us to move on and experience all that this wonderful life has to offer.  Recognizing that things – people, decisions, material items, feelings – aren’t mean to be held onto is difficult, but when we allow ourselves to let go we allow ourselves to grow.

Is there something you’re holding onto that is holding you back from growing?  If so, take a moment to identify what or who it is and find the courage to let go.  I promise you it will open the doors to a whole new world…and you will find happiness.

Have a beautiful weekend! ~Pamela

Bringing the Positive out of Hiding

I saw this the other day and jotted it down not knowing why until now.

“At times the world may seem an unfriendly and sinister place, but believe that there is much more good in it than bad.  All you have to do is look hard enough, and what might seem to be a series of unfortunate events may be the first steps of a journey.” ~Lemony Snicket

Let’s face it, life happens and sometimes it’s hard to dig deep enough to find the positive – even for me.  When we take the risk to open our heart to another we also take the risk of heartache when life happens and things don’t go as you wished.  At those times it can be so difficult to remember that there is more good than bad in your life and the world.  When we get hurt it seems a natural defense to lash out at the person that hurt you, it makes you feel better.  BUT…

What if you look at this hurt as the first step of a new journey?  What if the Universe is trying to tell you that there is something better for you?  And what if you learn a lesson from it all that makes your life a little bit better?

I’m not going to sugar coat things and say it’ll be easy because I know from experience that matters of the heart never are.  We will react and say things we shouldn’t because we are hurt.  Go ahead and cry, yell, break plates – yes break plates, it works for me every time!  Feel what you feel because it’s yours.  And when you have gotten all that negative out, take a deep breath and smile.  Smile because it will do two things:  (1) Force your body to feel happy  (2) Give you the boost you need to begin to get over it and begin your next journey.

When life hands you the not so good turn it around and find the positive in it.  Remember that you are not alone in your heartache and we all experience similar things.  Feel what you feel and use that to move toward the happy things you want.

Have a beautiful day! ~Pamela